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Tenaj enjoying her moment |
I yell at my children all of the time. I also don't mind when other people politely correct my children either. Goodness, I was corrected on many occasions as a child. However, it's different when someone is outright rude to your child or any other child.
Recently, my daughter helped a friend with a yard sale. She worked with another young lady to encourage neighbors in the trendy Takoma Park neighborhood to buy their wares. The items were true steals and the girls had a chance to laugh gossip and be creative in their sales techniques. I beamed with joy as my older daughter took to her new tasks, while my little one pranced around, watching her sister with adoration.
The day was definitely perfect. I entered the house to prepare lunch. I returned to the yard, with hot dogs, lemonade, and chips, only to find my oldest daughter visibly shaken and a bit distraught. I went into a mild panic mode. You see, my daughter is usually pretty level headed. It takes a lot to rattle her and I admit, she can be pretty clueless when people do mean things. My husband is the realist, while I have sheltered my kids from a lot of things.
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Tenaj, Phoenix and my niece Krystal |
As I set the food down, I noticed that some of the goods were sold. "Wow. You both sold quite a few good sales while I was inside!" My daughter turned to my with a wry smile, "We did. But there was a problem. As we were yelling, 'Yard sale! Come get fantastic good for a bargain', to everyone passing the house, the guy across the street yelled back- '
Of course we know you are having a yard sale. It's quite apparent. You don't have to advertise.' He came back five minutes later with his friend and they purchased a table. I felt weird, even as his friend purchased the table."
Normally, I try not to react, because my temper is quick. I calmed myself down and I reiterated to my daughter that unfortunately, there will always be miserable people in the world. I couldn't help but wonder, why would someone be so mean-spirited to children and teenagers. True, my daughter is rather tall for her age, but she still looks like a child, not a grown-up. Perhaps the guy felt guilty about his words and came back to purchase items.
I hate when my children have unpleasant experiences. I know that every situation forces them to learn something and to get stronger. But
all children should be allowed to be children.